On this week’s “You’ve Got This,” I talk with Jill Whitney about the birds and the bees and our kids.
Jill is a licensed marriage and family therapist and author of a forthcoming book on talking with kids about sexuality and sexual decision-making. She’s been featured in publications including The Washington Post, Parent.com, Reader’s Digest, Redbook, Huffington Post Canada, Romper, and Bustle. She’s also a columnist for the New London Day’s Times Community News Group and Parenting Teens & Tweens. Jill writes about relationships and sexuality at KeepTheTalkGoing.com. She leads workshops for parents, young people, and clinicians on exploring personal sexual values and communicating about sexuality. She’s an active member of the Episcopal Church and mother of two young adults. Connect with her on Twitter (@jillwhitneylmft) and Facebook.
“For most of us, it’s weird to talk with our kids about sex because we don’t have good models for it. Most of our parents didn’t do a good job if they did it at all,” Jill says. “It’s an inherently awkward topic, … everybody’s anxious, both parents and kids. Another thing that makes this hard is sometimes we’re not clear on what our personal values are or not being comfortable articulating that. So it’s a sort of hot mess of anxiety, that of course we want to avoid.”
Listen to the podcast for more insights and suggestions about having honest conversations about sex with our children and teens.