“If we had it altogether and did everything perfectly and our kids did everything perfectly, how would our little ones learn empathy for anyone?,” Lori says. “Compassion would never be developed in a person who never experiences a little struggle or a little suffering. Our trials in our life help us develop a godly and a loving character toward other people.”
“Each child is unique and what works for one child might not work for another. There are some generalities in raising children. I mean, all children no matter who they are need love. They need to feel safe and secure in their homes, in their bodies,” Dara said. “You know, they need to have bodily autonomy. I mean, there are certain things that are general across the board for all children; and then there’s a whole lot of variability depending on the makeup and the wiring of the child.”
“My wife and I often remind ourselves to not live vicariously through our kids, and that includes allowing them to decide on their level of sports participation,” Miller said.
“We glorify busyness I think in the American culture, acting like you need to have all these accomplishments behind your name for people to give you respect,” Tol said. “I know I have struggled with [thinking my busyness proves my worth], and it definitely contributed to busyness in my life.”
“I think children were born to play,” Janet says. “I think play is the seeds in the ground that prepare a child to understand the words they’re going to get hit with later on in school.”
Grandparents enjoy spending time with their grandchildren, but parents should be careful about asking for too much childcare. “I’m not a professional babysitter, so don’t abuse the relationship—build the relationship,” said Breidenbach.
“I’m writing way more letters to her for when she’s older,” Jacqueline Piccolo, who became a mom after 40 and now has a three-year-old daughter. “I do have worries about being there for my daughter when she’s older.”
“Sleep deprivation really plays havoc with our brains,” Stevens said. “Think about what you feel like after a broken night of sleep—you really don’t feel well the next day, your performance at work is probably be a little bit slower and it’s hard to remember things.”
“After surveying 100 daughters between the ages of 12 and 42 about their relationships with their moms, I was surprised to find many daughters believe their moms don't truly accept them for who they are or are/were overly critical of them,” Cindi said.