“I think parents also need training, such as learning to bite their tongue when their child doesn’t have a good game, when a referee doesn’t make a good call, when their child doesn’t get to play much,” Mike said. “When you don’t, you show your priorities to your child that you value sports over everything else.”
“I recommend thinking about what you’re bringing in to your house when you’re at the store with a cart full of things,” Darla said. “You’ll be bringing it out on trash day, a month from now when things are broken, it might be six months from now when kids are growing out of those clothes, or it might be six years from now when you finally get around to decluttering the baby toys. But at some point, that bag you brought in from the store it has to leave your house. If you have that realization up front, it will start to change your buying behavior, and your gifting behavior.”
“Our child will naturally know how to hit our buttons,” Tricia said. “They want to make us mad because when they can get us angry, they win because it shifts from being about her and her anger to me and my anger. If you’re angry, then she’s the victim, and we’re apologizing and explaining our actions.”
f all we do as women is to be a mother 24/7, catering always to our families without ever doing anything for ourselves, we aren’t painting a very attractive picture of adulthood for our children. Please don’t misunderstand me—mothering is an integral part of our calling. But we must take care that mothering doesn’t become the only part of our calling or of our day-to-day lives.
“The college admissions scandal demonstrates what happens when you don’t do that well. Every person that you look at is the sum total of their decisions. When you don’t start making good decisions early, your foundation can be shaky,” Frowsa’ said. “There’s a difference between raising children and raising adults, and I think for a lot of parents, they are busy raising children, so when those kids get to be adult age they still have to treat them as children.”
“Parents are starting way to late, so they’re missing their window of opportunity to potty train. That window is truly 18 months to 2 years. We’re not even starting until age 3 and that’s the main problem that I see today with toilet training.”
“Too much attention isn’t good for adults or children. It isn’t healthy to be the center of attention all the time,” Dinah said. “I started to relax, and my kids started figuring out how to entertain themselves. Better yet, they started developing hobbies.”
“I really think there’s a difference between joy and happiness,” Rachel says. “Happiness is about a birthday, a surprise party, a cup of coffee—that’s in the moment. But joy to me is this deeper heart posture looking for something that’s good and beautiful in the midst of whatever situation or season we’re in. And I think that’s really motherhood.”
“I draw from Jesus’ example when he washed the disciples’ feet. We’re called to be servants, whether we have a Ph.D. Or not. And moms are servants,” Linda says. "There’s two kind of lists: Your list and God’s list, and they don’t often match. God doesn’t call us to do things without equipping us to do that tasks. We can ask God and he will give us the wisdom to take care of the situations that seem well beyond us."
“Specifically with boys, because so many of the mentorship models are disappearing from our culture it seems, they need a place where they can see godly men who are leading boys and they need to have them as examples,” Mark said. “The character of a person and the skills that they develop trumps any charisma that they have because it puts them in position to lead. People will follow a leader who understands leadership principles and understands shared leadership and understands everything that you should be doing is a good positive leader.”