A Teen and Her Five Year Old Brother

Q: My question is about sibling conflict between my 13-year-old daughter and 5-year-old son. They are constantly fighting! And they are basically just rude and disrespectful towards each other so much of the time. I have read articles that say to let them work it out, but the hard part for me is the age gap between them. I feel frustrated when my 13-year-old gets rude to my five-year-old because I feel like she should know better and she should teach him better.

At the same time, my son gets extremely ugly in his behavior towards her, which also frustrates me because he’s not like that with other people. I feel like he’s still learning and she should already know not to say or do certain things to a little kid. The truth is she does. She is great with everybody else’s kids. She’s super-sweet and patient and loving. But to her brother, she’s not at all. She’s quick to get angry with him, and super dramatic about everything that he does. He will just go up and do certain things to her like grab something from her, and he’s even lied to get her in trouble.

Like I said, I know the articles say that I need to let them work it out, but there just seems to be so much tension between them and the age difference is what makes it really hard for me to know what to do. How do you suggest handling conflict of all types between children who are so far apart in age and development? A teenager and a preschool age child are so far apart!

A: I know how much this must hurt your mommy heart! But don’t despair—this can be turned around. A few things come to mind to help this situation.

  1. For now, don’t expect your teen to babysit her younger brother. I know, we rejoiced when our oldest hit 13 and we could leave her in charge of her three younger siblings and didn’t have to pay a sitter. But the dynamic here has gotten out of whack, so stop leaving her in charge (if you did before) until things resolve into more pleasantness between them.
  2. Be careful you’re not asking the teen to do too much to help her brother. Sometimes, we slip into the habit of relying on the older sib to help the younger one, and we do it too often—that can breed resentment and contempt on the part of the older sib.
  3. Separate them as much as possible for a while. In other words, they should interact as few times as possible while you help them work on a reset to their relationship.
  4. Make sure you’re spending one-on-one time with each of them, talking about the child in front of you, not the child at home. Kids act out when they don’t feel a connection with their parents. We take turns taking our kids to breakfast, for example.
  5. Take each one aside (not during your one-on-one special time) to check in with them about the sibling. Ask what’s going on, that you’ve noticed their relationship is frayed. Don’t accuse the child of doing something—your goal is fact-finding. Listen more than you talk. Empathize with the older one that her little brother can be annoying, and with the younger one that his sister can be snarky to him. Don’t try to fix it, don’t tell them what to do, just listen to get the tenor of what’s going on. Do this a few times over a week or so.

6.Then ask each one separately what would make their relationship better. Again, don’t jump in and defend one child to another, or don’t immediately dismiss the solution. Then ask the child/teen what they could do to make the relationship better.

  1. Call a family meeting. Say that you’ve noticed how each of them treat the other (they should be less likely to jump in defensive since you’ve already talked to them separately) and that’s not the way families act. Say the new rule is that for every put down, name calling, rude or disrespectful thing they say about the other sibling, they have to say at least three things they like or appreciate about that sibling. Tell them they each have to do at least two nice things for that sibling (like make lunch or hang up their coat, or bring them a pen because they asked for one and the cat is on their lap) each day before dinner, and that you’ll ask them at dinner what those things are.
  2. Do things together as a family, play games, read a book, start with small increments of time (like 15 minutes) so that you can end on a happy, rather than fighting, note.
  3. And don’t expect too much of your young teen. Sure, she should know better, but in many ways, she’s just a kid too.

How to get kids to do random things?

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If you’re a parent, you’ve experienced the frustration of asking your child to do something…and getting the fish eye, blank stare, snark, flat-out refusal, or whine “I don’t wanna.” This is doubly true when your request is random—that is, not related to the child’s regular chores or schedule.

Kids resist more frequently when the task request comes out of the blue, even if they’re doing “nothing,” the default runs from refusal to whining about it. But the fact remains, we all have to do things we didn’t put on our to-do list because things just come up.

How can you get your kids to do random things with less resistance and a more cheerful attitude? Here are a couple of things for moms and dads to keep in mind.

  1. Consider your timing. If your child has just sat down with a book, asking him to get up to help you will probably annoy him (as it would you in a similar situation!). If the task doesn’t need immediate attention, let a little time go by before voicing your directive.
  2. Avoid focusing on one child. If you have more than one kid, chances are, you default to asking one over the other for random tasks because of that particular child’s easier compliance. While you don’t need to adhere strictly to fairness in all things, this is one area you should strive to spread the, er, joy of helping you. To help you keep track of that, consider the two-then-switch rule—you ask two things of one child, then ask two of another.

Now, to help the kids be more compliant, here are three simple suggestions.

  1. Remind them of the clause “Other chores as assigned.” I actually wrote that on my kids’ chore charts and periodically tell them to be ready for “extra” tasks on occasion. Just like employees are generally expected to do things outside their written job descriptions, so should kids be prepared to execute tasks not on their chore descriptions.
  2. Try the ticket system. Have three slips of paper for each child (such as each child has a particular color), then tell the kids that each day, you might ask up to three random things of each child. When you do, you’ll give that child a slip of paper as a tangible marker that you’re “calling in a favor” or something similar. When the slips of paper are gone, so are the random tasks for the day. Some kids respond better to boundaries and this ticket system can help their hearts respond better to your directives.
  3. Use praise judiciously. When a child does complete the task without complaining, don’t always go overboard with your praise. However, if a child hasn’t been compliant in the past, but is in this instance, do tell him that you noticed. Be specific, like: “Thank you for not grumbling when you helped me carry in groceries.”

How do you get your kids to more cheerfully do those ad hock tasks?

Freedom Goes to a Two Year Old’s Head

Q: My 2-year-old recently transitioned from crib to bed. The freedom seems to be more than he can handle, and he has taken to destroying the bedroom he shares with his 3-year-old brother. Of course we’ve childproofed the room but there are clothes in drawers and some books on the shelf, mainly for the older brother. Typically in the mornings, I would make both boys help me pick up the mess before breakfast, but I’m now focusing on just the one boy since he is the perpetrator/instigator( I can see it on the monitor and we did not have this problem with the older one).

Since I’ve singled him out though for correction and sent the other boy down for breakfast without helping to pick up, the behavior has gotten even worse and he’s more mad. He refuses to clean up at all and the day goes downhill right from the beginning with him. He will only clean up if his brother is helping and I stay in the room with them. Left alone with instructions, he refuses. I do not show any frustration but simply let him know he made the mess and now he needs to pick it up or he will spend the day in his room except meals. He then proceeds to have fits, fiddle around in the room and look for other items to pull apart. We’ve stripped the room to bare bones but this is making things difficult. Should I be doing something else or is there a way to get some quicker action on his part?

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A: It’s amazing how different our kids are, isn’t it? Where one is more laid back, another is a spitfire. Where one stays in bed, the other one is a human tornado.

A couple of things to keep in mind with your particular situation. First, a toddler doesn’t have the long-term memory to put two and two together—in this case, that he wrecked his room, therefore he must pick up and stay in his room until it’s done. When you expect a child to do more than a child is capable, that’s when you build frustration—in the child and parent. Of course he doesn’t want to clean up by himself! He hasn’t connected the dots that it’s his mess.

Second, don’t expect quick action from a toddler. They are by their very nature dawdlers. They are learning so much in a short time frame, and everything fascinates and distracts them. This is the beauty and annoyance of twos!

But don’t despair! There is hope to turn things around. You don’t mention when he does this destruction—in the evening going to bed or in the morning when he wakes up. See if you can pinpoint the timing, then you can make your plan. If in the evening, you are likely able to hear him do this (or station yourself outside his door to listen). When you hear drawers opening, you come into the room and stop him in his tracks. Have him immediately pick up the items by the light of the hallway (with you alongside him) and pop him back in bed with minimal talking. If it’s in the morning, gauge when he usually wakes up, wake up a bit earlier, and repeat the halt him in his tracks/pick up routine.

Anytime he needs to pick up, do it alongside him, directing him gently. “You pick up the toy trucks, while I get the trains” type thing. Have him focus on one part of the job, not the entire thing. Clothes all over the floor can be overwhelming for any child, so picking out the shirts, then moving to socks, etc., will help teach him how to manage a larger task and help keep him on task.

Also make sure you have lots of positive touch points throughout the day with him, little interactions that give him your full attention and love. Keeping that close connection will make the discipline times go more smoothly and will help you have a better attitude toward him as well.

Those Fighting Girls

Q: My two girls, ages 2 and 3, constantly fight when together (expect for one to three minutes at the beginning of play). My 3 year old is aggressive to her younger sister in the forms of hitting, scratching, bossing/bully, and making her do her work. The 2 year old has no trust with her sister, and if the 3 year old comes close, the 2 year old will automatically defend herself by hitting, scratching, screaming and biting. I also have a 6-month-old baby and I can’t watch these girls every second, nor should I have to watch them every second.

I feel very paralyzed to accomplish minor tasks around the house because these two can’t be trusted. I try to ignore some of the fighting, but they harm each other pretty good if I don’t intervene after a minute. What are ways to minimize the sibling rivalry and build trust between the two?

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A: Believe it or not, they will stop constantly fighting, but that day isn’t going to come soon! My two oldest are similarly close in age and girls as well, so I well remember the battles between them at 2 and 3! So, what’s a mother to do?

Separation is your friend. As much as possible, direct the girls to play in different areas of the house or room with different toys. When you hear the first yelp, intervene to separate the two of them. Don’t pick sides, but remove the toy and redirect. Repeat. This will take some time because the girls have gotten into a bad habit of fighting.

Then in quieter times, work with them on how to play together. Perhaps when the baby naps in the morning, spend 10 or 15 minutes playing alongside the girls, directing them gently but firmly on how to play together. Show them by doing, and they’ll catch on about sharing, etc. This isn’t something kids learn on their own!

Also help the girls do nice things for each other, like bringing toys they like or having the older sister “read” a book to the younger one. This type of interaction—again, directed by you—will help build more positive interactions with each other. My book, Ending Sibling Rivalry: Moving Your Kids From War to Peace, has a lot of other suggestions on building positive sibling relationships and conflict resolution. You can order a copy through my webstore.

A Mean Girl at Home

Q: Our older daughter continues to be a source of hurt to her younger sister. They are three years apart and both teens. They are both well-liked in the community, praised by teachers, active in church and civic organizations, and taught responsibility with chores and part-time jobs.

Here’s the issue: The older one [College Daughter, or CD] will promise to watch a movie on a weekend and the younger one [Younger daughter, or YD] lets CD choose the movie and time and sits expectantly all evening. CD will sit in her room and say she’s coming, but never show up or procrastinate until it really is too late to start the evening. CD promises to make it up the next weekend and YD is always optimistic but then sits alone once again fighting back tears when she never shows up.

This situation or one similar has played out dozens of times each year but now has expanded to what we see as a new level of supreme selfishness to the point of causing intentional pain. CD will show up at church and take both her friends and her sister’s friends to dinner and leave her behind. They will even all be at the same church event and CD will pile everyone in the car and tell YD she can’t come. Other times, YD won’t know about the event until it’s posted on social media: a double in-your-face slam. The lowest point was when they were all posing for a spontaneous photo and CD told YD to stand aside and not be in it.

To all outwardly appearances, CD talks and walks with the values we taught her, but at home she is the most narcissistic individual we’ve encountered. How someone could be that intentionally hurtful is beyond us. Since calling her out each time CD does this seems to do no good, and she is in college, pays for her own phone, on scholarship with a part time job, we really don’t know how else to influence her that the Golden Rule applies in the home as well.

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A: Oh, this is hard and I know your heart is breaking for your younger daughter—and for her older sister who is being a very mean girl. You describe someone who is being intentionally cruel and not seeming to care about that. I’m assuming College Daughter is living at home while attending school and paying for her own necessities b/c of her part-time job. That means your options are limited in making an impression on her.

Here’s my advice: Take CD out for coffee or ice cream or something, just the two of you. Then approach the topic in a non-threatening way—this is an information gathering “meeting,” not another “You need to change your ways” meeting. Something like…

  • I know you love your sister—you two used to be close. Did something happen to change that?
  • I’ve noticed that your sister seems a little hurt that you want to do things separate from her. Do you have any suggestions?

Then listen. Don’t accuse, don’t lambast, just listen and see if there’s something underlying the behavior. There might not be, but you should do your due diligence to make sure. And leave it at that. Don’t ask her to change but don’t expect her to either.

Then take YD out for coffee or ice cream, again just the two of you. And ask her what she wants to do about CD’s treatment of her—does she want things to continue the way they’ve been or does she want to change the way SHE reacts to College Daughter? Hopefully, it’s the latter, then you could suggest that she can approach things like this:

For the movies, Younger Daughter can say, “College Daughter, I’m watching X movie at 8 p.m. I’d love to have you join me.” That’s it, one ask, but YD’s not dependent on the reply. She watches X movie at 8 p.m. whether CD joins her or not.

For the friends, Younger Daughter can ask her friends to help thwart College Daughter. When CD starts to say YD can’t come, her friends can say, “Oh, we can’t come without her.” You can also help YD come up with responses through role playing.

Overall, YD needs to realize that she has to lower her expectations for CD. When she can come to the understanding that CD isn’t going to change, YD will hopefully be able to manage her response to CD. Maybe YD starts to make plans with her friends without consulting CD. CD will likely try to sabotage those plans, so make sure YD is prepared for that mentally.

And have YD pray for CD on a daily basis. Perhaps reading about other girls who have struggled, such as Stepping Heavenward by Elizabeth Prentiss, will help guide her internal thoughts and motivations. Above all, YD should try to view CD with compassion and as much love as she can (heaping coals of fire upon the head of her “sisenemy”).

A Family Affair

Whether you have brothers or sisters or are the parents of more than one child, you know that siblings can be a blessing—and drive you crazy. Last month, I talked about sibling rivalry in the home from the parent perspective and sibling conflict as adult brothers and sisters on the podcast, Chained No More.

The topics hit a nerve, with thousands of listeners tuning in to hear my interview with host Robyn Besemann. Here’s some of what I discussed with Robyn during the two shows.

On parents wanting to get rid of conflict in their homes
Conflict is a part of life because we all want what we want when we want it—at heart, we’re all selfish beings, and sometimes those selfish wants/desires bubble over and clash with someone else’s wants/desires, etc., or our wants/desires mean someone else has to give up something.

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On reducing rivalry between step-parents and step-siblings
The number-one way parents can prevent step family sibling rivalry is to remove the word “step” from their vocabulary and treat all the kids like their own. No special favors, no regulating one parent into the role of observer,

On why we should try to get along with our adult siblings
Because these are the people who know you best, who have been there from the beginning, and who will likely be the ones around at the end. And because you’ll want assistance in helping your aging parents one day. And because our own children are watching how we relate to our siblings

On issues that crop up into adulthood that trigger sibling rivalry
Parental favoritism is a huge one, with some parents continuing or beginning a family dynamic of always taking care of one adult child for a variety of reasons. This could be fine, but most of the time, parents don’t bother to explain or even try to explain to their other kids the why behind their actions.

On building a bridge to repair sibling relationships
Don’t talk about them behind their backs. Be civil at family gatherings. Be the one to walk away and not engage in fights. Try to remember the positive things and think about those. Notice these are all things you can do—you can’t change the sibling, but you can change how you think and relate to the sibling.

To hear these free, hour-long podcasts, visit Chained No More.
“Sibling Rivalry: How to End the War At Home” aired on January 10, 2017.
“Adult Sibling Rivalry: Building Bridges and Mending Fences” aired on January 17, 2017.

Middle Child Acts Out

Q: We have 3 boys: 3 years old, 2 years old and 10 months old. Our second son has recently been hitting, biting, pushing and kicking his brothers but not other kids when we are out. He is also a very affectionate and loving boy who has a sweet side, but he can get angry fast, before I even know what is going on. He slams doors, throws things and has the tendency to get angry with everyone. Sometimes it is unprovoked, and other times it is provoked, even if it is just the baby crawling by. The hitting is sometimes followed by tickling and he never seems to show any remorse. I’ve tried taking away his coveted teddy bear and putting him in short timeouts in his room away from his brothers. His brothers have had minor injuries from these altercations, and I am hoping to make a change before anything worse happens. This behavior seemed to start when our 3 year old started preschool in September, the baby started becoming more mobile crawling around, and I started having two different part time babysitters help me during the day.

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A: You are in the thick of things and I understand you just want this problem to go away! However, your 2-year-old is acting like, well, a toddler tyrant. This is what 2-year-olds do—they hit, slam doors, throws things, get angry at the drop of a hat for no discernible reason. In short, when he’s upset, everyone knows it.

You could spend time investigating the why behind his behavior, but really, what will you do with the answer? You can’t very well put the baby back, or keep your 3-year-old home from preschool, or stop having help over.

So, what to do with your toddler tyrant? Here are some suggestions.

  1. Make sure you spend time with him several times during the day. A five-minute snuggle time after big brother goes off to preschool, a book read after you’ve tended to the baby for a while, etc., will go a long way toward making him feel noticed and loved.
  2. When he starts having a temper tantrum (hitting, biting, throwing things), simply remove him from the area and confine him to his crib (or room) until he calms down. This isn’t as punishment so much as it is depriving him of an audience and helping to teach him how to calm down himself.
  3. Don’t use the baby as an excuse, as in, “We can’t do X because the baby needs a nap.” Instead, say, “We’ll go do X in 15 minutes. I’ve set the timer so you’ll know when it’s time.” This will help him not resent the baby.
  4. Involve him in baby’s care. Have him entertain the baby when you’re cooking dinner, bring you diapers, etc. Exclaim what a big boy he is to help baby brother out.
  5. Make sure you keep the baby away from his favorite toys when you can. In fact, let him pick two or three toys to be “his” and don’t let the baby play with them.

Finally, remember that at this age, he’s doesn’t understand why he’s acting this way—that sort of self-reflection isn’t possible in a toddler. At this age, he’s all emotions and action. So keep that in mind as well.

This too will pass—it is only a stage. I know it seems like it’s going on forever, but it won’t.

 

When Young Siblings Fight

Q: I have a 5-year-old girl, a 4-year-old girl and a 2-year-old boy. I need some wisdom on how to handle their conflicts. My 2-year-old grabs toys from his older sisters. I usually come in when the older ones yell for me. I have them say, “Brother, I was using that toy, please give it back,” but brother says, “No!” I tell him to do it, and sometimes he does and sometimes he doesn’t. If he refuses, he gets put into his crib. This obviously isn’t working, as it happens probably a dozen times a day. He hangs onto the thing he grabbed until I intervene.

He also won’t take no for an answer when demanding that they play with him. When they say no, he yells, “please!” Then they respond by yelling “no”, and it’s a back and forth of NO PLEASE NO PLEASE until I intervene and separate all of them. 

The sisters are responding in anger and yelling to his aggressive demands (and he is very aggressive, he has bitten them on more than one occasion). My 4-year-old in particular is very quick to start crying and yelling in reaction to him. So then I discipline all of them and separate them into their own spaces for a while.

Things are not getting better. I am exasperated and feel like I spend all my time refereeing. I need a plan for dealing with this!

—Exasperated Mom

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A: Because your youngest is a toddler, you will need to intervene more often, but it doesn’t have to be so exasperating! Here are some ideas to help calm the overall situation.

First, have your girls pick out two or three toys that are special to them and allow them to not share that with their brother. Help them find a good place to put those toys so that they are not easily accessible to their brother.

Second, modify your schedule at home to all for more separation of the kids. In other words, restrict the access brother has to play with the girls.

Third, give the girls suggestions of how to interact with brother, such as reading to him (or making up stories to go with the pictures), helping him with puzzles, building towers for him to knock down, etc. This will give them all positive interactions.

Fourth, when brother does take toys, simply remove him from the room and distract him with something else in another part of the house. If you’re cooking, let him bang on pots and pans or stack plastic containers, for example. At 2, he’s not getting cause-and-effect, so removal and containment are keys to helping your daughters not get overly angry at something their brother truly can’t help. As he gets older, you can connect the dots more (“you took your sister’s toy, so you’re in your room”).

Once the youngest is at least 3 years old or a bit beyond, you can implement Do Not Disturb the Family Peace (explanation can be found here: http://sarahhamaker.com/wp/?p=535).

Ditch the Aggressor and Victim Roles

Q: My kids are 5 (girl) and 9(boy). She is precocious and bates her brother regularly. She is an extrovert sometimes to the extreme. He is quiet, generally calm, and keeps things inside, always trying to please. He gets frustrated, yells, cries and will even push or hit her when she needles him. Then he feels badly and apologizes. 

I’ve read about “Do Not Disturb The Family Peace” and love it. How would I make this effective for my kids so that it’s fair to both? With just 3 tickets, they could end up losing all of them and it really wouldn’t be his fault—she is difficult!

hamaker fox5 family peaceA: Before we tackle how Do Not Disturb the Family Peace (DNDFP), let’s start with how you’re contributing to the sibling conflict. Yes, I know, they are the ones fighting, but by your own words, you are assigning blame squarely on your daughter—and absolving your son of any serious contribution, as in “they could end up losing all of them and it really wouldn’t be his fault…she is difficult!”

For DNDFP to work—and believe me, it really does!—you have to stop putting your son in the “victim” camp and your daughter in the “aggressor/villain” camp. They both have a hand in the fighting, no matter how “difficult” one of them might be.

Helping your son learn how to react to a “difficult” person is one of the greatest lessons in life–and he’s learning it at home at a young age. Just think about how many difficult people you’ve encountered–a teacher, classmate, co-worker, boss, etc. Difficult people are all around us, and we can’t avoid them. What we can do is help our children learn how to deal with them in a way that’s kind and firm.

So back to your question! The way DNDFP works is that you have nothing to do with its execution other than directing one of the kids to take a ticket (or taking it yourself). You write the top two or three things they argue/fight about (for example, when I had this up for my kids, it was no hurting each other, keep the noise level down, and no tattling), give them together three tickets each morning, then don’t try to figure out what happened–just tell them they disturbed the family peace and it’s a ticket. For more on DNDFP, click here.

Yes, they will likely blow through the tickets in short order—then they’re confined to their rooms for the rest of the day and put to bed directly after supper. Remember, your kids are caught in a vicious pattern of fighting that’s only going to get worse. They need help to get off the merry-go-round, and this will help them.

A Christmas Secret

By Angela D. Meyer

My sister (6 years old) and brother (11 years old) both ended up being mad at me. I was only four at the time. What did I know about keeping a secret?

My brother pulled me into his plans as I watched him wrap his Christmas gift to my sister. “Don’t tell her what I’m giving her. Okay?”

I agreed to be in on his surprise. It was nice to be included, though I’m not sure why he even let me watch. But there I was. He should have known better.

Part of his gift was a ball and the other was some trinket from his room. I’m pretty sure she must have been eyeing these items or else he had waited too long to conspire with my parents to come up with anything more original than that. I would like to think it was the former, but I remember how my brother treated us before he grew up. The second option is much more likely.

There weren’t many gifts under the tree yet. Perhaps a couple from grandparents and those from each of us siblings to the others in our home. But my parents always waited till Christmas Eve to put their gifts out. It added to the element of mystery I still enjoy to this day.

My sister and I sat at the top of the old wooden stair case, staring down at the Christmas tree in the living room and those few gifts tantalizing us with a promise of good things to come Christmas morning.

“Do you know what he got me?” My sister asked.

“Yes.” I was oblivious to where this was leading. Besides, I couldn’t lie.

“What is it? I want to know.”

It felt good to have the inside scoop. I told her. Easy as that. No arm twisting necessary.

She frowned. “Why did you tell me?”

“You asked me.” I couldn’t understand why she was mad. I watched her stomp away. My brother soon discovered that I let the secret out, then both of them were mad at me.

These days, I’m much better at keeping a secret and pulling off surprises. Whether it’s a gift someone really wants, an activity one of my kids wants to do or a surprise birthday party, I find it satisfying to pull off. It takes a little bit of sneaky and a firm determination to keep things to yourself. And thanks to my siblings, I have a healthy dose of both.

Have you ever revealed a sibling secret?

About Angela D. Meyer
Angela D Meyer
Angela D. Meyer, the author of Where Hope Starts, lives in Nebraska with her husband of 24 years and their daughter, who is in high school. They have one son in the Marines. Angela has taught Bible classes for over 35 years and you can find her on social media encouraging women to grow in their faith and to stand strong in life. Angela enjoys hanging out with her family, reading and connecting with friends. One of her favorite spots is next to the ocean and someday she wants to ride in a hot air balloon. Stop by and say hello to Angela at her website: http://www.angeladmeyer.com/.