Q: I was wondering what you would make of this situation. Two of my girls are a senior and junior in high school. Their report cards show that both of them got one grade in the low 70s, while achieving 80s and 90s in the rest of their classes (they each take about 9 classes). So all in all they did pretty well, except that they both failed one class (46 and 24!) in a subject taught by the same teacher (who teaches one subject to the seniors and a different one to the juniors).
Both are conscientious and take school work seriously. Does this reflect the teacher or my kids? I have parent teacher conferences coming up, and I’m trying to decide how to broach this with the teacher.
A: It could be a bad teacher who simply goes through the motions and doesn’t care if kids get it or not. Or it could be a good teacher who’s teaching a harder subject that the girls maybe thought it would be easier and haven’t applied themselves or asked for extra help until it was too late. I’d ask each girl separately why they think they did so poorly in this class. Just listen without comment, then talk to the teacher.
I would approach it with the teacher in a way that was more puzzlement on your part than questioning the teacher. Something like: “I see that Junior/Senior have been having some struggles in your class, which is unusual for each of them. I’m wondering if you can shed any light on might be the reason. They are both hard workers but I’m concerned they may not be understanding the material or having some other issue/concern that’s hindering their learning.” Then follow up with, “What can Junior/Senior do to improve their grade?”
Of course, a good teacher will respond with an answer that will be helpful, and provide steps for the teen to take to improve, such as after school help, additional online resources/practice problems, etc.
A bad teacher will shrug and say it’s not her fault if kids can’t learn.
Also, talk to some other parents with kids in the same classes too and see if it’s a class wide problem or not. Then you’ll have more info on how to move forward with the girls.
Follow-up from parent: At the parent-teacher conference, the teacher was quite baffled, actually. And so are my girls. We’ll get to the bottom of this, but I’m not going to make a big deal out of it, seeing how well they’re doing in all their classes and how hard they’re working. They get home at six every day, and don’t stop with the homework until they go to bed (they go to a bi-curricular school, so it’s academically very rigorous).
But your approach really helped me approach the teacher in a neutral way, which is exactly what I needed!